The Unexamined Life is not Worth Living

Today is Easter. I have no plans. But I’m not too worried about it, either. I generally blow my wad of enthusiasm at Christmas and come April, Easter is neither here nor there for me. But I do find the juxtaposition of this year’s Easter rather ironic, if not also apropos, to what I amContinue Reading ““Coming out of the Darkness””

As it turns out, I’ve had the “satisfaction” of getting to make a lot of tough calls in my life.  And this is probably because I’m obsessed with impossible situations. None the less, in my efforts at healing to become whole, I’ve gotten to really look at how I’m engaging in the world, how theContinue Reading ““The other side of good decisions””

Because I am a therapist, myself, I get to say this… and that is that depending on how you look at it, personal growth is a load of malarkey.  I mean, not really. Obviously, I still believe in the field and what we’re all out there venturing to do.  But I tell you what… IContinue Reading ““The Illusion of Personal Growth””

I’ve noticed that people seem to know when they’ve arrived when they pair up. Tell me I’m wrong. Ask any single person you know who is friends with a formerly-single-but-now-paired-up person and tell me that that person—now that life is bumping and grinding for them—believes him/herself to have ‘arrived’… to have suddenly, finally, at longContinue Reading ““How you know when you’ve arrived””

I just read an excerpt in a book that introduced me to this term, “beholding.” I thought it was interesting. The author was beginning her description of self-examination as means to evolving and in so doing, proposed that there must be a “beholding of the self.” To behold, she explained, is to energetically embrace.  SheContinue Reading ““Beholding at Prom””

I’m not one hundred percent sure what made me think of this but I all of a sudden found myself remembering an exchange with someone from some time ago when, upon describing some of my trials and tribulations in relationships, she responded—trying to be helpful (and most certainly missing the mark) by trying to encourageContinue Reading ““Bite Sized Chunks””

I am so uncomfortable right now. It all started out innocently enough. About five weeks ago I said goodbye to someone I’d been dating. He would be book number two. It was quite the journey with him and the ending has been hard. (Hence the book).  This is probably no surprise. As you might haveContinue Reading ““Intuition””

Today I found myself thinking about tact …and notwithstanding the fact that everything in social communication could be argued a product of social construction, I found myself pondering how much of our perception of tactlessness is in fact projection at work and when someone is really just guilty of being an asshole. Case in point:Continue Reading ““Tact: Social Construction, Perception, or Projection?””

The last book I wrote revolved heavily around this idea of ‘claiming’ and really looked at my struggles in claiming my space in the world.  And, to this end, my struggle in attracting people who want to claim me, thereby reinforcing my difficulty to, again, claim my space. In that book, I wrote a chapterContinue Reading ““Corduroy comes down off the shelf””

After my middle of the night rant, I totally figured it out. In my non-victiming what-the-fucking, I’ve been doing a lot of looking at power. Namely, at how much of mine sits on the sidelines waiting to be claimed. Being a very permission-oriented person, it’s never occurred to me that asking permission inherently keeps aContinue Reading ““The Purpose of Unfairness””